The ManGap Questionnaire

Before you start, you have my promise that your replies will remain strictly confidential.   I will only use this information to help personalise my feedback on how you can start closing the ManGap in your own life.

Which of the following most closely matches what you desire?

1. friendship and/or companionship
2. casual encounters, sex with no string attached
3. dating and romance leading to a short- or long-term relationship
4. marriage

How do you currently meet men?  Please rank the options below in order of success.  (1 = most successful, 10 = least successful)

1. social activities such as parties, hobbies or nights out
2. workplace-related activities
3. by-chance encounters, happenstance
4. personal network such as friends, family or acquaintances
5. online dating sites
6. social networking sites
7. personal ads
8. speed dating
9. singles events
10. introduction agencies

What do you find most challenging about finding, meeting, attracting and connecting with suitable men?

How strongly do you agree with the following statements? (1 = strongly agree, 10= strongly disagree)

1. There are NO good men left.
2. I am too old to attract a man.
3. I carry far too much emotional baggage to have the relationship I desire.
4. I am open to meeting a variety of men, even if they don’t necessarily meet all my criteria.
5. I’ll most probably spend the rest of my life alone – no doubt joining Bridget Jones’ imaginary corpse half-eaten by Alsatians!
6. I’m not ‘enough’ – not pretty, thin, smart, rich nor (fill in your favourite blank here) enough.
7. I am comfortable accepting male interest in a variety of forms such as admiration, compliments, invitations and generous gestures.
8. Men feel threatened by successful women.
9. Watch out world, I am willing to do whatever it takes to have the relationship I desire!
10. There is something wrong with a woman who desires a relationship in order to feel happy and fulfilled.
11. Eeek - I keep dating my father / ex / first love!
12. My achievements enhance my desirability.
13. I believe in love at first sight – I’ll know when I meet him.
14. I always seem to attract men who don’t meet my criteria.
15. True love depends on Fate.

Which of the following statements best describes your current situation?

1. I am in my 30s or 40s and want to be married and have / raise children.
2. I am a single mother with young children.
3. I am financially-independent with either no children or with grown-up children no longer living at home.
4. I am over 60.
5. I am career-orientated, having difficulty creating or maintaining relationships because of work commitments.
6. I have had a series of one- to three-year relationships throughout my life - any previous marriages were brief, usually early in life.
7. I have never had a significant romantic relationship – any romances lasted for a year or less.
8. None of the above describes your current situation?  Please specify: [again, can Deepak program a word limit? Otherwise you might get life stories!]

Thank you for taking the time to reply to this questionnaire.  Before I can send you your personalised feedback, please provide me with the following contact details:

Your age
Your location
Your email address
Your current personal status:

1. never married
2. separated
3. divorced
4. widowed
5. in a relationship
6. other, please specify